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为什么你会因为小事而生气？（隐藏心理学）

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• Today let's talk about emotional instability.
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• Have you ever had moments when something small,
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• just a little thing,
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• feels like it sets off a fire inside you?
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• Your emotions instantly spiral out of control.
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• You become so irritable you don't even recognize yourself,
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• or maybe during a normal conversation,
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• as soon as someone slightly disagrees,
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• your mind turns with anxiety and irritation.
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• You feel so overwhelmed you almost want to Snap at them.
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• Sometimes you know they didn't mean to upset you,
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• but if they don't meet your expectations,
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• you can't hold back feelings of hurt and anger.
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• You might even blow up until your emotions fully explode.
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• And then,
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• like a deflated balloon,
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• you collapse under waves of guilt and regret.
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• You hate feeling this way.
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• You promise yourself you'll control it next time.
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• But when the emotions rush in,
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• you're caught off guard and your brain feels overwhelmed.
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• Your heart races,
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• your body tenses,
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• your breath quickens like a scared animal.
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• On high alert,
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• even a look,
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• a single word can trigger an outburst.
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• You want to hit pause,
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• a control is gone.
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• You feel hijacked,
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• helpless as you cross the boundaries of reason.
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• After it all calms down,
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• the room goes quiet,
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• but inside you feel empty,
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• exhausted,
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• filled with.
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• Shame people say you have a bad temper that you're too sensitive,
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• too emotional,
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• too difficult.
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• But no one ever asks what's really wrong.
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• You don't want to argue or lose your temper on purpose.
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• You care sometimes even about things others see as trivial,
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• that tenderness,
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• that sensitivity.
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• It's not a flaw,
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• it's pain you carry often it's not anger you feel your fighting to show please take me seriously please understand me you're not hard to get along with.
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• You're just tired of going unheard.
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• You long for someone who gets your quiet moments without needing explanations,
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• who understands that your silence means I'm hurting to.
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• In psychology,
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• people with unstable emotions often conceal a child within one who is never allowed to be vulnerable.
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• Maybe as a kid,
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• a simple mistake brought harsh punishment without understanding.
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• You learn that mistakes lead to blame,
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• so you tried hard to be the good kid,
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• but that turned you into an adult who's harsh on yourself.
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• You suppress feelings trying to please quietly,
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• but emotions don't disappear,
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• they just come out in different ways.
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• A small misunderstanding can make you furious.
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• Unmet expectations keep.
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• You awake at night the more you try to control your emotions,
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• the more out of control they become.
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• Others only see your bad temper.
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• They don't see your exhaustion,
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• your fear,
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• you're not difficult,
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• you're deeply tired.
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• You're desperate to be seen,
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• understood and allowed to be fragile.
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• Psychology also explains this with the ABC theory of emotions.
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• It's not the event itself that breaks you down,
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• but how you interpret it and the expectations you hold.
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• It's not about them not replying to your message being so awful but about how you believe someone who cares should reach out.
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• It's not about having no likes on social media but about worrying am I even liked your pain comes from your mind story of how things should be stories that reality quietly shatters so dear friend,
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• if your emotions often feel out of control,
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• stop blaming yourself.
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• You're not just angry or hard to handle you've gone too long without true understanding those feelings of hurt are real.
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• That anger is your way of showing how much you care when you feel ready to explode.
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• Don't immediately suppress it.
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• Pause.
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• Ask yourself,
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• am I angry at this situation or am I hurt?
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• Because I feel ignored again sometimes a deep breath and a kind word to yourself can pull you back from the edge.
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• Give your emotions a little space,
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• write it down,
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• take a walk,
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• take a hot shower or simply sit quietly.
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• It's okay not to fix it right away.
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• Emotions aren't enemies,
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• they're your body's way of asking for help.
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• From now on,
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• make caring for your emotions a priority.
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• Slowly you'll realize you're not unworthy of love.
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• You deserve kindness from yourself and others.
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• May you stop protecting your vulnerability with anger and instead quietly learn to love yourself,
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• embrace your feelings steadily and live a life full of gentle strengths.
00:03:34
• Today let's talk about emotional instability.
00:03:37
• Have you ever had moments when something small,
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• just a little thing,
00:03:39
• feels like it sets off a fire inside you?
00:03:41
• Your emotions instantly spiral out of control.
00:03:44
• You become so irritable you don't even recognize yourself.
00:03:46
• Or maybe during a normal conversation,
00:03:48
• as soon as someone slightly disagrees,
00:03:50
• your mind turns with anxiety and irritation.
00:03:52
• You feel so overwhelmed you almost want to Snap at them.
00:03:55
• Sometimes you know they didn't mean to upset you,
00:03:58
• but if they don't meet your expectations,
00:03:59
• you can't hold back.
00:04:00
• Feelings of hurt and anger you might even blow up until your emotions fully explode and then like a deflated balloon you collapse under waves of guilt and regret.
00:04:08
• You hate feeling this way you promise yourself you'll control it next time but when the emotions rush in,
00:04:13
• you're caught off guard and your brain feels overwhelmed your heart races,
00:04:16
• your body tenses,
00:04:17
• your breath quickens like a scared animal on high alert even a look a single word can trigger an outburst you want to hit pause a control is gone you feel hijacked,
00:04:27
• helpless as you cross the boundaries of reason after it all calms down the room goes quiet but inside you feel empty,
00:04:34
• exhausted,
00:04:34
• filled with shame people say you have a bad temper that you're too sensitive,
00:04:38
• too emotional,
00:04:39
• too difficult but no one ever asks what's really wrong you don't want to argue or lose your temper on purpose.
00:04:44
• You care sometimes even about things others see as trivial,
00:04:48
• that tenderness,
00:04:49
• that sensitivity.
00:04:50
• It's not a flaw it's pain you carry often it's not anger you feel you're fighting to show please take me seriously please understand me.
00:04:57
• You're not hard to get along with.
00:04:59
• You're just tired.
00:05:00
• Going unheard you long for someone who gets your quiet moments without needing explanations.
00:05:05
• Who understands that your silence means I'm hurting to in psychology people with unstable emotions often conceal a child within one who is never allowed to be vulnerable.
00:05:15
• Maybe as a kid a simple mistake brought harsh punishment without understanding you learn that mistakes lead to blame so you tried hard to be the good kid but that turned you into an adult who's harsh on yourself.
00:05:25
• You suppress feelings trying to please quietly but emotions don't disappear they just come out in different ways.
00:05:30
• A small misunderstanding can make you furious.
00:05:33
• Unmet expectations keep you awake at night.
00:05:36
• The more you try to control your emotions,
00:05:37
• the more out of control they become.
00:05:39
• Others only see your bad temper,
00:05:41
• they don't see your exhaustion,
00:05:42
• your fear,
00:05:43
• you're not difficult,
00:05:44
• you're deeply tired you're desperate to be seen,
00:05:47
• understood and allowed to be fragile.
00:05:49
• Psychology also explains this with the ABC theory of emotions.
00:05:53
• It's not the event itself that breaks you down,
00:05:55
• but how you interpret it and the expectations you hold.
00:05:58
• It's not about them not replying to your.
00:06:00
• Message being so awful but about how you believe someone who cares should reach out it's not about having no likes on social media but about worrying am I even liked your pain comes from your mind story of how things should be stories that reality quietly shatters so dear friend if your emotions often feel out of control stop blaming yourself you're not just angry or hard to handle you've gone too long without true understanding those feelings of hurt are real that anger is your way of showing how much you care when you feel ready to explode don't immediately suppress it pause.
00:06:31
• Ask yourself am I angry at this situation or am I hurt because I feel ignored again?
00:06:36
• Sometimes a deep breath and a kind word to yourself can pull you back from the edge give your emotions a little space write it down take a walk take a hot shower or simply sit quietly it's okay not to fix it right away emotions aren't enemies they're your body's way of asking for help from now on,
00:06:52
• make caring for your emotions a priority.
00:06:54
• Slowly you'll realize you're not unworthy of love you deserve kindness from yourself and others.
00:06:59
• May you?
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• Stop protecting your vulnerability with anger and instead quietly learn to love yourself,
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• embrace your feelings steadily and live a life full of gentle strengths.